By Aliki Kraterou
A desperate single mum has shared shocking videos revealing her daily struggle raising three severely autistic kids – and claims she gets no help from the authorities.
High school supply cover Laksuma Begum, 32, from Somerton, Newport, Wales, spends her time cleaning, cooking and taking care of sons non-verbal sons Caius, eight, Kyan, seven, and Sammy, five.
Shocking footage shows the boys grabbing Laksuma’s hair until she cries, tugging at curtains, screaming and biting.
The mum claims she has been seeking help from Newport City Council for respite care to help with her ‘angels in disguise’ since 2015 and has even called the police in her desperation but has received no help at all.
She was forced to hire two babysitters privately for 9-12 hours weekly.
Laksuma, who split up with her husband in February 2018, has now shared the videos to raise awareness of the impact autism can have on families.
The 32-year-old said: “My babies can’t express themselves, and that causes them severe anxiety.
“Autism is a very different, complexed situation- my children are challenging but they have built me up to such a level, they were given to me for a reason, to raise awareness for children with autism and families out there.
“All I’ve ever asked was some help to make my home a safe place and allow my children to have a mother but I’ve received nothing, It’s disgusting.
“I am not only fighting for my children, I want to raise awareness for all the families that might be going through what I am.
“I have a lot of patience and stamina and I still haven’t been broken, but I don’t know for how long I can keep going.
“We are prisoners in our own home. To this day I can’t go out with my kids without the risk of one of them running away, I have to have them on a harness just so they can have a life .
“People see me at the supermarket, with all three boys securely attached to the trolley even though they are not little and say I am a lazy mother, there is a lot of misunderstanding because my children look beautiful and normal.
“How could the social services allow my children to be neglected at the hands of their mother? – How could they honestly do that to my non- verbal children?”
Laksuma’s boys go to Ysgol Bryn Derw and Pillgwenlly Primary School in Newport, which the mum describes as ‘absolutely fantastic’.
But she said life as a single mum is difficult, and in order for her to be able to have time to cook or have a shower she has to keep her sons occupied with tablets – which they keep smashing.
Two weeks ago, Kyan attacked Sammy so violently Laksuma said she was forced to call Gwent Police.
She said her local council intervened in December 2018 and offered two nights monthly for the older boys- but it was revoked after two stays.
Her ex-partner, who she still has a mutual relationship due to her children, looks after each boy once a month,for a few hours since the couple separated last year.
Laksuma said sometimes her neighbours help out during before and after school hours, just so she can work but they are becoming more reluctant as the boys’ actions increase in violence.
Since last December, she was forced to stop working until a solution is found.
She said: “I have to put my work on hold, I can’t even take my children to the doctor.
“I want to be a mother to my children, to be able to spend time with them.
“ I want my children to have a mother, they are crying for a mother.
“I am starting to realise that unintentionally I have become a ‘supermum’ but I actually am a super carer.
“I am not a mother, I am a care giver – I don’t feel love or pain anymore but allow my children to feel love unconditionally.
“ I would rather my kids have a life because right now they are suffering more than me.”
A spokesperson for Newport City Council said: “Newport City Council is sympathetic to the concerns raised by this family and a social worker has been working with the parent for many months to help alleviate the concerns raised.
“However it is not council policy to comment on individual cases, especially when young children are concerned.
“The council does recognise that respite care is extremely important for families and this is provided along with a range of other support services from the local authority along with other organisations.”