By Lucy Notarantonio
A woman has become a single mum by choice after struggling to find the ‘right man’ and undergoing IVF.
Sarah Mill, 39, from Melbourne, Aus, made a pledge to herself that she will have her dream baby by undergoing IVF with a sperm donor – if she hadn’t met someone by the time she was 37.
Now, the new mum has spoken openly about her journey on Instagram and created a candid video for her four-month-old son Oliver to watch when he is older, explaining how he came into existence
Sarah, who is an executive assistant, is sharing her story for other women whose biological clock is ticking.
She said: “It was in mine and Oliver’s best interest for me to be a solo mother, I would hate to rush into things with someone who I didn’t have a spark with.
“I made a pledge to myself if I don’t find the right man by the time, I was 37, then I would go ahead with IVF, but I wasn’t quite ready until the following year.
“I think it is important to be open about my journey as I am not ashamed, I am proud for doing this on my own.
“I will make sure he understands that I wanted him so badly that I needed some help from someone.
“I intend on telling Oliver as soon as he is old enough to understand, I think he will appreciate the video I did as it shows how much I adored him before he was even here.
“I may not have taken the usual route to become a mum, but I didn’t want to settle with the wrong person and regret it in the future.
“It took a few weeks to find a donor who was as like me with blonde hair, blue eyes and tall – I narrowed the three-page spreadsheet down to two donors.
“I was then given a five-page document on the donors medical history including their families which made it even harder as I wasn’t willing to have a child from a family of poor health.
“A few days later, some more donors were registered, and I found the perfect match and my journey to be mum began.
“My luck continued as I fell pregnant on the first round of IVF and only experienced a bit of nausea during the first trimester.
“He is the most perfect little boy and I love being a mum, some people say I am brave, or they admire me for doing it alone but it is all I have ever known so I just get on with it.
“It has been tough at times and I hate to rely on other people but my family are happy to help when they can.”
Sarah spent her twenties and early thirties travelling and struggled to find the ‘right man’ after spending four years In London and Canada.
She adds: “I wouldn’t say I was desperate to have a baby but after seeing my sisters with their kids I began to want it too.
“I have been lucky enough to experience love once, but I have a habit of liking guys with an accent meaning they are never permanently living in Melbourne.
“I was sick of dates that never led anywhere, and I couldn’t bare the thought of having a baby with a random and staying together for the sake of my child.
“I would encourage women who are thinking about being a solo mum to look into it before it is too late and that it most definitely isn’t as hard as they think.
“My life has completely changed, and I couldn’t be happier with my perfect little boy.”
To see more of Sarah’s journey follow @onelifeinmelbourne